Finally Here




As many of you who read this blog know, I’m getting married Saturday to my amazing partner Clay. So I’m going to take a tiny break from this blog till early next week (I’ll be taking a longer break for my honeymoon in July). I wanted to thank all my readers who have sent me congratulatory emails. There have been so many that I cannot respond to all of them individually, but I have read each of them and they are all heartfelt, and I so appreciate your support and enthusiasm for our big day.

Peace and love!

Off I go.


100 Stones for Love




A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a little blog post about all the amazing friends and family who have had a hand in helping to prepare for my wedding. One of those people is Diana Fayt, who is a longtime (and dear) friend and insanely prolific and talented ceramics artist. As Clay and I were beginning to prepare for our wedding many months ago, Diana asked if we would like for her to paint stones as our official wedding favors. I was already a huge fan of Diana’s painted stones (which I wrote about here last November), and so, of course, we took her up on her offer.

Diana has been working away on painting the stones for many months, and she’s been calling them 100 Stones for Love.  Just a couple of days ago, she finished 103 of them for the 103 people who will be sitting down at our celebration on Saturday, including Clay and me. On the back of each is printed: L+C 6-1-13.

It has been the kindness, generosity and palpable excitement of certain people in my life that has made getting ready for this big day a totally wondrous & unforgettable experience. Diana is one of those people.

Have a happy Wednesday, friends!


Weapons of Mass Creation Fest




Last August, I heard chatter on Twitter about a festival/conference for creatives in Cleveland, Ohio called Weapons of Mass Creation. Several friends — Kate Bingaman Burt, Austin Kleon, Margot Harrington, Tuesday Bassen – were speaking there and talking about it on Twitter. Previously, I’d never heard of the event before, and I was intrigued. About a month later I got an email from Joseph Hughes, one of the organizers: “I’m not sure if your ears were burning back in June,” he said, “but your name came up again and again and we’d love you to speak in 2013.” After seeing the amazing lineup of speakers they’d had 2012 & who they were gathering for 2013 , their mission, and a chance to spend a week in Ohio, (where I’ve never been), the answer was a resounding yes.



The Weapons of Mass Creation Fest, or  “WMC Fest” as it’s come to be known, is becoming the premiere design and music festival in the midwest. This year, it includes three days and 70+ performances from August 16-18. It’s mission? To inspire. Jeff Finley, founder: “I wanted to bring in bands and artists that inspired me so I could share that inspiration with my community.” Jeff and his team have started this event with limited resources and are offering tickets at affordable prices. WCM needs funding. They have started a Kickstarter Campaign to raise money to get this year’s event off the ground. Learn more here.


You can also support the event by attending. Tickets are on sale here. It’s going to be a blast. You can view the speaker lineup here and the band lineup here. I’m heading out there with Clay and my best pal Rena (who is also speaking). Join us!

Happy Tuesday, friends.


On Being an Enthusiastic Bride




A couple of weeks ago, I gushed something about my upcoming wedding on my personal Facebook page. A friend of mine commented: “You are, without a doubt, the most enthusiastic bride I’ve ever known.” I blushed at this sweet comment, but immediately I also thought, “Aren’t all brides this enthusiastic?”

I spent most of my life thinking I would never get married (even convincing myself for many years in my 20’s and 30’s that marriage was a stupid, overrated social contract). I thought all of these things as a way of protecting myself from the crater of sadness I felt. You see, deep down inside, I have always wanted to get married, since I was a little girl. Not necessarily for the sake of marriage itself, but to share my life intimately with another person. But I really believed it would never happen for me. Until recently, gay people couldn’t get married, legally anyway. When I was in my 20’s in the 90’s I could never have imagined that gay marriage would ever be legal. Most gay couples didn’t even have ceremonies back then like they do now, legality aside. The message: our lives, our relationships and our experiences were just not as important or valid as those in the rest of society. So a hope of marriage? I had none of it. I wrote about that a little bit here when I got engaged.

And then there is how long it took me to find a relationship with someone I’d actually want to marry, or who would want to marry me. I was 40 years old when I met Clay. FORTY. I am 45 now. That is a long time to wait, especially when there is a crater of sadness inside of you.

So, yes, I am enthusiastic about getting married. A wedding is something I never thought I would plan or experience. Sharing a life with someone as stellar as Clay was formerly a pipe dream. And now it’s real, it’s really happening. The pomp, the celebration of our love, the witnesses, the vows. And then, our life together — probably not much different than it is now — but we will be married. And maybe soon (if the Supreme Court does the right thing) our marriage will be legal.

I am extremely joyful, yes I am.

Happy Friday.


My Nordic Adventure: A Tribute to Bikes in Denmark




The first thing I noticed when I arrived in Copenhagen, Denmark were the number of bicycles, and how relatively few cars there were on the road. There are bicycles everywhere. Old women on bicycles, kids on bicycles, large people on bicycles. Nearly everyone rides a bike in Denmark. Bikes are especially popular in Copenhagen. At every street corner, they are lined up. And every street has a bike path. Rain or shine (or snow) Danes ride their bikes. It’s really an inspiring sight to see. Also, here’s a nice little blurb on the Official Website of Denmark on Bicycle Culture.

Have a wonderful Thursday, friends!